You’ve been a single parent for a while and you think you are finally ready to get back into the dating world. That world has changed since you were last in it and that may already feel overwhelming, but now you have kids. That changes the picture.
1. You may be ready but your kids aren’t.
This is the toughest pill to swallow. You are an adult and think you can make this decision without their input. You can’t. If you try, your kids will make your dating life hell.
This is something you should talk about.
2. Tell your dates about your kids right away.
Some you date may be in a different life stage. You come as a package deal. Those you date need to know that up front.
3. Discuss roles and responsibilities if the relationship progresses.
This is important when it comes to disciplining children from either household. However, it can also play a role in dealing with adult children. That is especially true if adult children need help, such as babysitting or financial help.
Some couples put this conversation off way too long. It can cause conflict if you have different views.
4. Don’t stay with anyone your children hate.
This is a tricky subject because some children aren’t going to be happy with anyone you choose. There are other times that children pick up on things about that person you don’t see.
5. Don’t trust too soon.
Your children should be the most important part of your life. Having someone else be part of the family too soon is a big mistake and could affect their safety. Don’t leave them alone with the kids.
It may be your life, but your children are a big part of it. You may not be single your whole life, but you will be a parent forever. You need to put that role in a priority status over dating.
