Whether you’re newly dating, living together or married, relationships require a lot of work. One of the most fundamental pillars to a healthy relationship is trust; but how do you build it? We’ve got some tips to help you build and maintain trust with your significant other in hopes of alleviating arguments and laying the groundwork for a long-term commitment.
Unlock your phone.
While privacy has its place in relationships, keeping your phone locked may also cause an already-suspicious mind to doubt your loyalty. Consider sharing your passcode as a gesture to promote trust. You can always change it later.
Limit your interaction with female friends.
There’s nothing wrong with having friends of the same sex, but it can certainly breed mistrust if you have close female friends who are regularly calling and texting you. You can politely explain to your female friends that you’re in a new relationship and trying to build trust, while also reassuring your new girlfriend that you’re not interested in anyone—but her—beyond friendship.
Be honest with information.
If you go to lunch with a female friend or colleague, don’t assume that keeping it a secret is the best way to avoid an argument. In most cases, things will get heated far more quickly if your girlfriend (or new wife) finds out after the fact.
Share your feelings openly.
Feeling as though your girlfriend is trying to isolate you from your friends and family? Or that she is controlling who you can spend time with when you’re not at work? Be honest with her about how you feel and why it worries you. Try to understand why she doesn’t trust you and reassure her that she has no reason to worry.
Communicate your plans for the future.
If you don’t want to get married anytime soon or have never wanted kids, the only fair thing to do is share that information with your significant other. It’s hardly fair for her to fall deeply in love with you only to overhear you tell your brother that you can’t wait to get a vasectomy.
Make big decisions together.
Your girlfriend can’t dictate whether you take a new job or relocate for work, but surprising her with a big decision may also feel like a shot out of the left field. Talk to her about your options before you take a leap—even if she doesn’t agree with your final decision.
